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Trigger Happy (Originally Published 11/14/2022)
- Catherine Bott
- Jan 14
- 4 min read
For most of us, there is at least one or two experiences or encounters from the past that can, every now and then, pull us into those shadow-self emotions that have the power to cripple our present-day activities. For me a statement my mother once said to me, “You are just average” when I was about 15 recently reared its ugly head and my emotions trigged back fifty years.
For me, when in the process of writing books and blogs I sometimes hear those unkind but prophetically intended words of my mother and wonder who do I think I am to commit ideas to paper that may help others “yield to the presence of God?”
Whether it’s unkind words, an event such as a school/synagogue shooting, the loss of a beloved pet at a young age or the trauma of divorcing parents, events of the past are simply Soul’s way of developing one’s own divinely designed curriculum to work through so that one may eventually become a light-filled rather than a shadow-filled influence on Earth.
How are we doing so far?
If you are one of those that get “stuck” in the past, help is on the way. But first cognizance of the past must be established. In other words, what encounter of the past is still encouraging thoughts about yourself that are only not yours, but not your truth? I know a 45-year-old woman who has never had a healthy relationship because her father left when she was only a year old never to be heard from again. How about the man who watched his father beat up his mother as he was growing up who cannot seem to establish his own masculine to feminine intimacy.
No person walking Earth is immune to Soul’s curriculum-devising antics. In fact, it’s easy to see the patterns and downfalls of the childhood upbringing and influences of others while those dark patterns go unnoticed within our own minds and behaviors. Not everyone resolves their issues. Jeffery Dahmer and Adolf Hitler are proof of that. Those that can’t are simply outstanding reminders to the world to look within to see the “speck in our own eye”.
The good news is that if you are reading this you have most likely been led by a power greater than yourself to take a personal inventory. Most of the time, resolving past hurts and unkind actions that have been levied toward us require acknowledgment of the event and forgiveness of the perpetrator.
I hear myself saying over and over “I forgive my mother . . ..” My mother was very unhappy, unfit for the mothering of her four children and addicted to legally prescribed drugs. On a conscious level I understand why she was the mother she was. On a deeper more psychological level I still struggle to wrap my arms around why any mother would say something so unkind as “you’re just average.” I’m triggered by those words and the trigger results are not always pretty.
I’m always uncovering past triggers – I think most of us do. The secret is to resolve the effect the past has on us when the trigger goes off. Once and for all. Everyone will do this differently. Here are some suggestions to get your “Release and Forgive” program started.
1. Pray for an understanding of how the unkind or hurtful events of the past has prepared you for something greater or how the event was actually beneficial. A friend, the victim of a house fire when younger finally came to grips with the fact that the fire cleaned out the overbearing mess her pack-rat father has created. Looking for the “light” purpose in any situation can help to eliminate negative triggers. Every event has a light filled purpose; we just need to find it.
2. Meditate on what lesson Soul brought you with the experience. For me, I know I have been driven to be a person beyond the limits of average. A blessing or a curse? You read my writings. You decide.
3. Write letters to those that hurt you. Not for mailing. My mentees all seem to be able to take the next step they want after they have handwritten (very important to hand write the letter) letters to those that have hurt them. Date and put the letter in a sock drawer. You will find it at the exact moment you are ready to release and let go! I always recommend the letter start with: Dear _________, how dare you… and see where it takes them.
Take a step towards becoming free from the past, it doesn’t exist anyway!
AFFIRMATION: I see emotional triggers as healing opportunities.
“I'm Catherine Wilcox, working to help others see that God is in all things, all the time, through conscious change and self-healing.”
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Catherine Wilcox is a Conscious Change Coach, Mentor, emotional intuitive and Writer. If you like what you read here, then you may enjoy one of her Published Books:
Sacred Space (COMING SOON)
Sacred Relationship (COMING SOON)
**Catherine’s latest Book, The New Stone Age, Crystal Data for the 21st Century, contains ten chapters of information designed to help the novice and intermediate crystologist obtain the secrets to working with crystals to help the four mind-bodies balance chaotic energy.
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