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The Relationship Spectrum (Originally Published 3/7/2023)
- Catherine Bott
- Jan 15
- 6 min read
The better we know the truth about who we are, what we like, the depth of our being, the healthier all of our relationships become. In truth, who we are, the human/material growth we were born to develop, attracts every relationship we have on one level or another.
Since the purpose of every experience on Earth is to bring light (balance) to the planet, all relationships are the Universe’s way of offering everyone light making possibilities. One could even say that relationships are more than a “collective” lesson on love. We live on an electrically charged, magnetically driven planet (humans are electromagnetic beings). The human being is designed to bring balance to Earth’s polarity. Every relationship (and I mean every relationship) has at its center the potential of offering balance and bringing light to all aspects of the human being.
I said balance because everything on Earth is seeking balance. Constantly. Night in its own way is seeking its spectral end, day. Hot seeks its opposite, cold. These are commonly known spectrums which are natural, spectral occurrences. The relationship that starts with some form of attraction between any two people, romantic or otherwise, is also designed to ride the spectral wave in the case of human development. Soul, Creator Source, Allah, the power that oversees all growth, has clearly designed the human being with needs that must be met. Sure, there are the physical needs of touch, food, intimacy, etc. Going deeper however are the emotional and mental needs that are only met in some form of a relationship.
Mental needs, met and enhanced by relationship, is how mental learning is developed. From learning to tie one’s shoes to the development of nuclear energy, relationships are needed to teach, write books, and create curiosities that drive the human mind to deeper understandings in the scholarly world. I’m reminded here, of the story of the boy that was raised by wolves. His mental mind was only developed to the limit of the knowledge of his mentors, the wolves.
The emotions however are designed to develop and grow through relationships. Period.
The emotional programming that develops the emotional aspects of one’s self begins from the moment of birth. Everyone is born with different needs depending on their archetypes. Archetypes are the individualized and unique internal software of each spirit being walking Earth. Researchers have indicated that the average human being is born with twelve main archetypal “drivers” that motivate what is stored in the psyche waiting to be engaged, enlightened and acted upon when sparked or developed. The subject of archetypes is too vast to fully teach in a blog. However, archetypes can be explained as it relates to relationships.
Simply put, the human being is born to learn, perfect, and then teach what they have learned, the human contribution to the evolution of the planet. We can’t all be Einstein’s (thank God) but we can live in the truth of our being which is that one is here to learn truth, love, accountability, fairness, compassion, develop wisdom, enhance the imagination and increase their enthusiasm level (enthusiasm comes from the Greek meaning God within) - the list is infinite.
The relationship spectrum can only be experienced between two or more spirit-beings-having-a- human experience. The only goal of any relationship is to grow one’s self and thusly the planet we all share, and to further evolve the human aspect(s) of the spirit being. Every person in one’s life hops in (and often out) presenting opportunities to experience “light” for oneself and others. Sometimes we “get it” which accounts for long term marriages and friendships. Other times one’s personal shadow qualities such as greed, anger, revenge, hate, judgements, fear, well you get the picture, causes breakdowns in relationships and then each party moves on to the next person who will bring the same issues, perhaps disguised a little differently, until one grows out of those shadow mindsets into light filled experiences; to accept the things, we cannot change. Evolve from a chaotic mind into the acceptance of life’s karma. Mature from a hateful heart into a loving being. Progress from a darkly judgmental mind into a mind of acceptance and understanding.
In some Divine way it is hard to grasp that each and every relationship one experiences is perfectly designed in the relationship spectrum to help each individual in relationship develop for themselves - NOT the other person. A very stubborn man hooks up with a very stubborn woman, Soul’s intent being for each person to see the ugliness of being stubborn. They either get it, move on or kill each other. A tactless, bossy woman has a lifelong friend who is patient, kind and compassionate and also meek and mild. Their thirty-year relationship has helped one become more mild and the other a little more tactful – almost by osmosis, but technically by example. Both of them “move to the center” of their relationship spectrum in their shared “light” decreasing their individual shadow qualities.
Take an honest look at all your relationships, especially those that bring you angst. Yes, Divine design also puts one in joy filled relationships depending on the progress one has made in developing one’s “relationship spectrum” in this and other lifetimes. Give thanks for these joy filled happy outcome relationships. But for those angst filled relationships take some time to ponder WHAT it is about yourself you are supposed to develop, enhance, or balance? What event of the past is still lingering on your heart that requires learning to release or forgive?
As an example of the release aspect, my husband’s daughters seemed to reflect a similar type of resentment for their father that my mother carried for her father up to her dying day. Mom’s resentment passed down to me like so many parental emotions do. Someone else’s resentment in your own psyche is hard to repair because the cause wasn’t rooted in your own experiences but subconsciously planted. The stormy relationship I endured with my husband’s daughters who experienced the exact same events as my mother (abandonment by father) helped me to find compassion for them in a way that I that probably would not have been able to see without all the familial drama I had as a child from my own mother.
Angst filled relationships can change to joy filled relationships when one party seeks to consciously change THEMSELF as a result of the opportunities presented in the relationship.
Once the Soul intended lesson is learned from a relationship, the relationship often fizzes out or abates. However, when love is strong enough or the Karma is deep, and if both parties continue to develop, become more centered and enhance the truth of their beings, the relationship has the ingredients to strengthen.
Regardless of a relationship’s longevity, always keep in mind that EVERY relationship is designed by Soul for your mental and emotional evolution and enhancement. Get the message and further develop yourself consciously on purpose. A developed you creates more developed and beautiful relationships. Either way the choice is always yours: Joy or Angst?
Always be grateful for all of the teaching tools Soul uses, especially relationships.
Affirmation: All of my relationships have light filled intentions.
“I'm Catherine Wilcox, working to help others see that God is in all things, all the time, through conscious change and self-healing.”
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Catherine Wilcox is a Conscious Change Coach, Mentor, emotional intuitive and Writer. If you like what you read here, then you may enjoy one of her Published Books:
Sacred Space (COMING SOON)
Sacred Relationship (COMING SOON)
**Catherine’s latest Book, The New Stone Age, Crystal Data for the 21st Century, contains ten chapters of information designed to help the novice and intermediate crystologist obtain the secrets to working with crystals to help the four mind-bodies balance chaotic energy.
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